I was originally going to post about my lack of style... One thing is for sure, women of the 50's were glamorous. Me in my jeans and t-shirt? Not so much. It was a very good topic I think and I still will make a post on it. Instead I have something more important to talk about today! My experience with trying to be a supportive wife to my husband.
My hubbs has been working on a book for about 3 years now, actually he's written a total of 3 books. He's ready to start getting them out there in the world for people to read and it's not been an easy road so far. We've run into a few snags...
I will give you a bit of info about my hubbs since I really haven't really done that on here yet. He is an extremely hard working man, a wonderful provider for his family, an involved father, and a caring husband. One thing he is not, is good with people. He can't stand interacting with people, especially people he doesn't know, it makes him extremely anxious.
Can you imagine what that's like for a writer? Working for years on your book, putting a part of your soul into it and then sending it off for strangers to critique? Well it's just not easy for him... He struggles with all aspects of it.
I've been doing my very best to help him as much as I can... I've helped him create a Facebook page for his books, I've helped with research and finding publishers & agents, I've helped with editing and revising, I've helped with brainstorming ideas, today I helped him create a blog... I really have done my very best to help in any and every way.
What I haven't always been able to do, is help with a smile every time. I try my very best to be understanding and supportive. I've never once told him he couldn't do it or not to do it. Because I know he can do it! But he doesn't seem to believe in himself. I find it frustrating that he doesn't just get in there and do what he needs to do next... He agonizes over each and every decision and choice. He's a perfectionist for sure!
I listed the ways that I have supported him, now I think I'll list the ways that I have failed him. Keep in mind these are only related to supporting him in his writing. I get snappy when he asks me the same question over and over, I get frustrated when he needs me to look up something that he could look up himself, I've yelled at him over stupid things, I am extremely impatient, it frustrates me when he doesn't understand something when I think I've been perfectly clear, I took too long when helping with proofreading... I'm sure there's more but I'm having trouble recalling everything.
Looking back now I realize I have lost my temper a lot more than I wish I had. I do believe that I have been more supportive than not... He may have a different opinion on the subject, I'll make a mental note to ask him. I'm going to make a decision right now to try my very best to be patient and understanding when we're talking about his books.
I think it's very important in a marriage for both the husband and the wife to support each others dreams and projects. I can't think of any person in the world that I rely on for support more than my husband. He supports me in every aspect of my life and I try to do the same for him. I think sometimes we all get caught up so much in our own hopes and dreams, we find it hard to support others with theirs.
So I ask you, are you a supportive spouse? Have you ever told your spouse that you thought their idea was a bad one and not to do it? If you aren't very supportive, will you try to change that? I hope so because we all deserve someone in our corner. Be there for your spouse! =)
My favorite, FAVORITE thing about blogging is reading your comments! So if you have anything to say on the subject I ask you to comment! It's the best part really!
Aaaaand I forgot to put a link to his blog here! Just incase you are curious as to what all the hubbub was about! You can find it here.